Marriage & Relationships

Offering a comprehensive, integrated and relatable approach to Intimacy and Relationships

I know it might be hard to be here, looking at my website right now. Relationship and/or Couples work can feel daunting. I applaud you for taking the first step and I invite you to keep reading, and see if what I have to offer resonates with you. If you feel so inclined, please reach out.

If you are having trouble in your marriage, in your relationships, if you are going through a separation or divorce or are working to rebuild and reinvent yourself, I am here to work with you to understand yourself and others in an approachable fashion so that you can have the best intimacy and relationships of your life. I know how challenging it can be to make the first move, but I will be with you every step of the way.

Hi, I’m Thea Jansky and I specialize in working with couples and individuals who want a directed approach to relational success. I frequently assure my clients, “no one taught you how to do this, so how would you know?”

This is the reality for many people. We are thrust into adulthood, assuming that if we find the right person, find each other attractive, and have a connection, that everything will just work.

That if we experience challenges, our relationship might not be the right fit.

I am here to tell you that I don’t subscribe to that motto. I have seen, time and time again, that couples who thought they were done, merely did not have the skills to create a fulfilling life together. Many of them lost themselves along the way. I work with couples and individuals to help you find your way back to yourself first, and then to each other.

You were never taught how to do relationships. So how would you automatically know how to do them well?

“We love each other, we just don’t know how to do this anymore”

Relationships can be some of the most rewarding - and some of the most complicated - parts of our lives.

You can love someone deeply and still feel disconnected.

You can want intimacy and still struggle to talk about sex.

You can know something needs to change and still have no idea how to actually make that change happen.

You can be a strong, capable person in every other area of your life and feel completely lost inside your relationship.

This is where my work begins.

I work with individuals and couples to understand what is happening beneath the surface, develop the skills to communicate more effectively, create healthier boundaries, navigate conflict, rebuild trust, and create relationships that feel connected, sustainable, and alive.

You don’t have to figure it out alone.

“I know what I want to say, but every time I try, it turns into a fight.”

You haven’t failed.

The experiences you have been struggling with may be signs that the strategies you’re using aren’t working. Relationships evolve. People evolve. Families change. Desire changes. Life Changes. Sometimes we simply need new skills for the relationship we are in now.

My Approach

My work is deeply relational, and that’s my style of coaching.

That means I don’t believe in handing you a generic list of communication techniques and sending you on your way.

I want to understand you. How you respond when you’re hurt. What happens when you’re angry. What you learned about relationships growing up. Where you over-function. Where you disappear. Where you hold on too tightly. Where you don’t speak up for yourself. And what happens between you and the people you love when things get difficult.

From there, we make practical changes that you can actually use day to day.

Marriage isn’t easy.

Many of my couples come to see me because the passion has disappeared, the responsibilities of life leave them with very little time and energy, and many small or one large conflict are unresolved.

If you see yourself in this story, you have come to the right place. I have worked with many couples over the years who find me as a last ditch effort to “save” their relationship. Many have gone to couples therapy and have found they do not connect with the practitioner, and some have found that it was helpful in the moment, yet the connection they have found fades and they find themselves back in the same place.

I enjoy helping couples discover who they are as partners to each other and figure out what they want out of their relationship together. Figuring out how to live in harmony is difficult sometimes - doing the dance that we call long term relationship and/or marriage is finding balance. The balance of knowing oneself, knowing your partner, meeting your own personal needs, asking for your needs to be met and having the skills to cope with tough emotions and communicate through the unresolved.

Where we can work together…

  • Marriage & Long-Term Relationships

    Create a relationship that feels emotionally connected, respectful, sustainable, and secure. We can work on communication, conflict, boundaries, expectations, trust, individual needs, interdependence, and the patterns that keep you feeling stuck.

  • Intimacy & Sex

    Talk about the things that can be incredibly difficult to talk about. Differences in desire. Sexual disconnection. Libido. Pleasure. Initiating sex, Resentment. Vulnerability. Feeling wanted. Feeling safe enough to be intimate. There is no shame in needing help learning how to talk about sex.

  • Infidelity & Rebuilding Trust

    Infidelity can profoundly disrupt a relationship-but it does not automatically determine its future. We can work through the hurt, understand what happned, establish boundaries and transparency, and determine what rebuilding trust could look like for you. We can also explore what mindful separation looks like if that is your goal, and work on maintaining a respectful and connected connection with your soon to be ex partner if that is what is right for you.

  • Premarital Coaching

    Getting married is a beautiful beginning. It is also an opportunity to have the conversations before life forces you to have them. We can explore communication, conflict, finances, family, parenting, careers, sex and intimacy, expectations, and the life you want to build together.

  • Separation, Divorce, & Reinvention

    Sometimes the work is about repairing the relationship. Sometime it is about understanding whether the relationship can continue. And sometimes it is about finding your way through the ending of a relationship and back to yourself. You do not have to navigate those decisions and transitions without support.

  • Boundaries & Codependency

    Learn how to care about other people without abandoning yourself. We can work on people pleasing, over-functioning, resentment, difficulty saying no, emotional responsibility, and the difference between healthy connection and losing yourself inside someone else’s needs.

  • Conflict & Communication

    Conflict isn’t necessarily the problem. What matters is what happens when conflict occurs. Learn how to communicate directly, listen differently, stay connected during difficult conversations, repair after disconnection, and create agreements that are actually sustainable.